This is so heartfelt and lovely. I love how you are so honest and bare witness to your own emotions and inner turmoil. Doing the work is tough and ugly sometimes. But I know you've got this. And if you ever need support from an Internet stranger who just happens to be a life coach, I'm here.
I love these essays, they make so much sense to me in a crazy world... Keep writing and sharing! Thank you for putting it all out there and supporting #truth, even the parts of yourself you are afraid of. This is bravery, and it is inspiring and hopeful in a darkened world.
You're willingness to expose your deepest fears and hurt never ceases to amaze me. I pray that someday I grow up and can do the same. On so many issues I feel locked in. Thank you for sharing you brave girl.
Sending you love and light. Why oh why do our past traumas have to continue to resurface? And when they do, why must we give in to them in ways we know are destructive?
Prayers that this will be a step in knowing that your reaction was irrational and that the next time, you are able to calm that anxiousness rather than feed it.❤️
This is so relatable. I can just feel it in my body. Therapy saved my marriage and I continue to work on myself to deal with those kind of feelings. I never reached out on fb, and now you lost a follower there bc I quitted fb due to all that is going on.
So on this platform I just wanted to let you know that I have been following your journey for years now, I've been laughing and crying with you and you feel like a distant friend. One who speeks her&my mind, one that can see what is going on in her country. And thank God you are a woman who is Christian and loves without boundry and accepts people unconditional. You are an inspiration to me.
Be blessed, loved and I wish you the very best from the Netherlands.
MK! It was bound to happen and when it did you just had to show your ass! Ok! It’s done! He knows you are fragile. I pray his love is unconditional. Hurt people hurt people! I am rooting for you both! Take baby steps! You will get there! ❤️
I just came over here from fb. Thank you so much for posting and sharing this with us. You have no idea how much I needed to see this today. Trying to heal yourself and love someone else is hard. Keep going girl. We are with you.
Mary Katherine,it is so crazy how I just had my first HUGE fight with my husband of 8 months and Im going to post about it. I literally thought our marriage was over because it was very ugly on both ends. Because I'm a yeller and he was giving me the silent treatment, no real communication was happening. So I went out to run errands with my friend and deci a happy medium would be through text. Long story short we're fine now but it was scary there for a minute. I can totally relate to what you went through. I hope you'll read my post this coming week 😉
What an incredibly raw post. It’s a post many could write but few would dare.
True healing comes when we just see ourselves as we are, figure out why we are there, and know from that scary place of deep honesty comes acceptance which then allows change. We are beautifully imperfect people and when we have the courage to own what is ours the door to change opens.
Shame is an incredibly destructive emotion, instead we can simply say, I really messed up. An apology with ownership and change is our way forward and sometimes the way forward is steps backwards and forwards.
Remember in this relationship with your treasured man, that you are not second best - he chose you!
This is so heartfelt and lovely. I love how you are so honest and bare witness to your own emotions and inner turmoil. Doing the work is tough and ugly sometimes. But I know you've got this. And if you ever need support from an Internet stranger who just happens to be a life coach, I'm here.
sending you love, patience, and peace while you work through this with yourself and your love. ❤️
I love these essays, they make so much sense to me in a crazy world... Keep writing and sharing! Thank you for putting it all out there and supporting #truth, even the parts of yourself you are afraid of. This is bravery, and it is inspiring and hopeful in a darkened world.
Oh, boy, did you bring back memories of me, in former times. It took me a long, long time to heal, but I know you can!
I so understand this. Cheering you on as you plunge forward with your healthy relationship. 💕
WOW!!! This sounds so familiar. Our lives are so similar. I love reading your substack. Makes me feel less alone. Thank you so much.
You're willingness to expose your deepest fears and hurt never ceases to amaze me. I pray that someday I grow up and can do the same. On so many issues I feel locked in. Thank you for sharing you brave girl.
Sending you love and light. Why oh why do our past traumas have to continue to resurface? And when they do, why must we give in to them in ways we know are destructive?
Prayers that this will be a step in knowing that your reaction was irrational and that the next time, you are able to calm that anxiousness rather than feed it.❤️
This is so relatable. I can just feel it in my body. Therapy saved my marriage and I continue to work on myself to deal with those kind of feelings. I never reached out on fb, and now you lost a follower there bc I quitted fb due to all that is going on.
So on this platform I just wanted to let you know that I have been following your journey for years now, I've been laughing and crying with you and you feel like a distant friend. One who speeks her&my mind, one that can see what is going on in her country. And thank God you are a woman who is Christian and loves without boundry and accepts people unconditional. You are an inspiration to me.
Be blessed, loved and I wish you the very best from the Netherlands.
Janneke
Just…wow <3
MK! It was bound to happen and when it did you just had to show your ass! Ok! It’s done! He knows you are fragile. I pray his love is unconditional. Hurt people hurt people! I am rooting for you both! Take baby steps! You will get there! ❤️
I just came over here from fb. Thank you so much for posting and sharing this with us. You have no idea how much I needed to see this today. Trying to heal yourself and love someone else is hard. Keep going girl. We are with you.
Mary Katherine,it is so crazy how I just had my first HUGE fight with my husband of 8 months and Im going to post about it. I literally thought our marriage was over because it was very ugly on both ends. Because I'm a yeller and he was giving me the silent treatment, no real communication was happening. So I went out to run errands with my friend and deci a happy medium would be through text. Long story short we're fine now but it was scary there for a minute. I can totally relate to what you went through. I hope you'll read my post this coming week 😉
Incredibly timely for me. Thank you so much for sharing. I needed this hope to trust that I can in fact heal and be better
I wish i could have read this (and believed it) about 50 years ago.........
What an incredibly raw post. It’s a post many could write but few would dare.
True healing comes when we just see ourselves as we are, figure out why we are there, and know from that scary place of deep honesty comes acceptance which then allows change. We are beautifully imperfect people and when we have the courage to own what is ours the door to change opens.
Shame is an incredibly destructive emotion, instead we can simply say, I really messed up. An apology with ownership and change is our way forward and sometimes the way forward is steps backwards and forwards.
Remember in this relationship with your treasured man, that you are not second best - he chose you!