Beautiful. I once told my son that we learn from our mistakes. His response? "Is that why you're so smart, mommy?" (He was five at the time.) The perfect mother doesn't and never has existed. We do what we can.
Eliminate it from your internalized ‘mistakes’. It happens to the best of us, very often it’s mutual and no one’s fault, too often it’s needed because one spouse is a screwball.
If you’re the screwball, failure is what you were a screwball about. DV, cheating, drugs/gambling, whatever. Divorce is then a response.
Looking back, the absolute best thing I taught mine - “Question everything - including what I taught you”
The most unrealized truth we face daily as parents - we are preparing our children for a world that doesn’t exist yet. Once you realize that fact, you become the ultimate teacher.
"Life is messy and complicated and hard. Being human means getting it wrong sometimes, and that’s okay. What matters is being willing to sit in the mess, be present, and own your role in the story. That’s what I’ve tried to do. That’s what I hope I’ve taught you."
And this is the lesson, I pray, I taught my girls. That life can be messy, hard, complicated. I hope I have given them the tools to live life to the fullest, that it can be messy and challenging, but we can go on behyond that.
Beautiful. I once told my son that we learn from our mistakes. His response? "Is that why you're so smart, mommy?" (He was five at the time.) The perfect mother doesn't and never has existed. We do what we can.
Divorce is not ‘failure’.
DIVORCE IS NOT FAILURE.
Eliminate it from your internalized ‘mistakes’. It happens to the best of us, very often it’s mutual and no one’s fault, too often it’s needed because one spouse is a screwball.
If you’re the screwball, failure is what you were a screwball about. DV, cheating, drugs/gambling, whatever. Divorce is then a response.
Looking back, the absolute best thing I taught mine - “Question everything - including what I taught you”
The most unrealized truth we face daily as parents - we are preparing our children for a world that doesn’t exist yet. Once you realize that fact, you become the ultimate teacher.
This is profoundly beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing this with me I'm going to be thinking on it for quite some time
This. Right. Here. Full stop. How I have felt navigating divorced with kids. Perfectly imperfect. Thank you for baring your heart and soul.
I have told my now adult children that whatever we let them do - or not let them do - was because we thought it was in their best interests.
"Life is messy and complicated and hard. Being human means getting it wrong sometimes, and that’s okay. What matters is being willing to sit in the mess, be present, and own your role in the story. That’s what I’ve tried to do. That’s what I hope I’ve taught you."
And this is the lesson, I pray, I taught my girls. That life can be messy, hard, complicated. I hope I have given them the tools to live life to the fullest, that it can be messy and challenging, but we can go on behyond that.