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Dec 6, 2023Liked by Mary Katherine Backstrom

The emergency contact part. Oof.

I know the poem is about divorce, but we just lost a teacher in my building last week and it’s hard not seeing her at school. There have been things that I’ve wanted to reach out to her about and then I remember. It’s hard when you want to turn to someone but can’t.

Glad you were able to write again. ♥️

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MK, I know how you feel right now. My ex husband lives on the East Coast and I'm on the west. He is dying from lung cancer and I'm concerned my grown son won't see him before he passes away. It's hard knowing someone you love will be gone but he won't be forgotten. I feel you. Much love.

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Amazing summary of feelings. I know that everyone has felt this in the midst of divorce but few can articulate the feelings so well. You are stronger than you ever knew. Divorce tests so many of our assumptions regarding “forever”.

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Mary Katherine, you’re amazing in your ability to describe what it feels like to be adrift in the loss of someone you trusted and loved. May God bless you and give you strength to help you through this. ❤️🙏🏻

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Beautiful poem, story, or your writing thoughts. I like it.

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I know the struggle.

You’ve captured it perfectly.

I was adrift for years, then I met the man who became my second husband. I lost him to an illness almost 21 years after we wed.

Many widows get angry (I’m in FB groups) when someone compares divorce to the death of a spouse.

I don’t.

Grief is grief. The death of a dream can come in many ways.

I often think my divorce (I was blindsided) was the most painful experience of my life.

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Bless you 🙏🏻 ❤️ As a woman who’s been through divorce 2xs I appreciate this message. I’m glad you found the love of your life I only wish you had him longer. I’ve been married to my husband now for almost 18 years and it seems like yesteryears since those divorces now. In a “somewhat similar” area I have been sickly my whole life but on disability since I was 27. I’m now 45. My husband unfortunately joined me on this disability train at the age of 44 he’s now 52. I say the same of chronic illness and disability. It really is like accepting the dying of the old you and truly grieving all you once were capable of and like any other grief it shows back up tapping at your door off and on. God bless you!

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Thanks for this. Divorce sucks. Facing the same question. Sending love and positive vibes. 💕

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Such a good read. It hit home. If you know..you know. Thankyou MK.

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I completely understand and agree 10,000%...In my opinion divorce is basically the same as someone dying! You have to grieve the loss of that relationship and what that person's roll looked like in your life!! I used to write and I just started back for the first time in like a decade, wish me luck bcuz so far I'm still struggling. Thank you for sharing your life...the good, the bad, and the ugly...it's all things that I truly feel need to be spoken on more...I'm grateful to have found you, you've continued to be an inspiration for so long. May God continue to bless you 🫶🏻

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This is so beautifully written MK. As someone who has went through a divorce I can fully relate to this. Who do we tell our happiest and saddest things too... I get it. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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I’m praying for you right now. A broken heart is like Humpty Dumpty.

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