While I understand the points being made in this post, I while reading it felt really sad for the daughter, whose own values and priorities were overridden/disregarded by an authority figure who "knew what was better" for them. It also made me reflect on the idea that we assume the divine to be an authority figure that knows what's best for us (albeit possibly true) and disregards our own autonomy in favour of what is "good for us". The latter isn't a picture of the divine I can accept any more.
Secondly, while deferred gratification is a useful skill, I consider it to be hugely overemphasised by both church and secular cultures. The idea that we are to take on trust that the suffering we are presently enduring will be repaid by an unknown and untested future gain is deeply concerning to me. It seems to me to be suspiciously convenient for those who are currently enjoying luxury at the expense of those who are suffering. A sort of patronising, "There there dear, just endure your suffering now, and everything will be OK in the end.".
Letting go of attachments (in the mindfulness sense) is usually healthy, but sometimes having our present wants and needs honoured is even more healthy, especially in creating healthy "secure" childhood attachment (in the psychological sense).
I've been losing paperclip for a while now...perhaps years. But this year takes the cake and ice cream, which either of them I can't have due to the paper clips I worried and cried over. I sent my body into stacks of paper thrown all over the place. And yet, God has been so patient with me, waiting for me to fall into His arms and allow him to take all the papers to sort out...for me. I'm so grateful that this post gave even more clarity and confirmation as to all that's happening and what's coming, which is for my best.
Thank you for sharing. Much love, peace, and blessings.
A message most of us can understand.
Thank you for sharing, MK.
Thank you, friend. I'm so glad you are here.
I needed this message. Thank you! ❤️
I'm so glad this article touched your heart. Thank you for being here!
Thank you for sharing I feel like I lost my paperclip as well today, we all need a small reminder to bring us back to our God
Agreed. We all need our reminders!
Excellent!
While I understand the points being made in this post, I while reading it felt really sad for the daughter, whose own values and priorities were overridden/disregarded by an authority figure who "knew what was better" for them. It also made me reflect on the idea that we assume the divine to be an authority figure that knows what's best for us (albeit possibly true) and disregards our own autonomy in favour of what is "good for us". The latter isn't a picture of the divine I can accept any more.
Secondly, while deferred gratification is a useful skill, I consider it to be hugely overemphasised by both church and secular cultures. The idea that we are to take on trust that the suffering we are presently enduring will be repaid by an unknown and untested future gain is deeply concerning to me. It seems to me to be suspiciously convenient for those who are currently enjoying luxury at the expense of those who are suffering. A sort of patronising, "There there dear, just endure your suffering now, and everything will be OK in the end.".
Letting go of attachments (in the mindfulness sense) is usually healthy, but sometimes having our present wants and needs honoured is even more healthy, especially in creating healthy "secure" childhood attachment (in the psychological sense).
Oh wow. I. Love. This. SO. much.
This is a priceless message. Thank you, MK. ❤️
that really means a lot to me. Thank you so much <3
Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing this valuable lesson. 😊
Let's all say goodbye to our paper clips. Here's to finding peace in the letting go!
Such simple, but beautiful and deep words!♥️♥️
I've been losing paperclip for a while now...perhaps years. But this year takes the cake and ice cream, which either of them I can't have due to the paper clips I worried and cried over. I sent my body into stacks of paper thrown all over the place. And yet, God has been so patient with me, waiting for me to fall into His arms and allow him to take all the papers to sort out...for me. I'm so grateful that this post gave even more clarity and confirmation as to all that's happening and what's coming, which is for my best.
Thank you for sharing. Much love, peace, and blessings.
This spoke to my soul. I love your truths and the way you express yourself is a true gift.