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This is beautiful MK. Seriously, even thinking about the goopy mess is somehow nice. Maybe it’s the hope that comes with it.

Have you ever cleaned out a closet and turned around to look at the pile of stuff everywhere and wonder why you made that decision in the first place (to unpack everything), then you have to do the hard part of putting all the things you want to keep back in a good spot? I can imagine what you’re going through is similar. That feeling of “oh shit, what am I doing?” can be debilitating.

You are worthy.

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Sep 3, 2023Liked by Mary Katherine Backstrom

Yes, dear heart. Your chrysalis is like a grave, a tomb. Like Jesus, you will be spectacular.

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I know I don’t actually know you or your family but I’ve been a long time follower and what I *do* know is that you are genuinely good person who lives with all her heart. My heart is breaking for you right now. Hoping for the best for you, truly!! You have a lot of people hoping that for you. Hugs from the Philly area ❤️

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It must be the time of the chrysalis for many people… I received this message from you today and Elizabeth Gilbert, who started the Eat Pray Love revolution 20 years ago says the same thing… We are transforming… All the time, but sometimes that change is so fast and transformative it is hard to feel. Be gentle with yourself, and know we are sending you love… If you are open to it, try to write yourself a “spiritual love letter.” I hear the same truth from both you and Liz… You are amazing!

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Man, the cocooning is so dark- I wonder if the caterpillar wonders what's gonna happen when they're going in there..or if the goo FEELS the gloominess..what some would consider dormancy, utter destruction, maybe even wasted time, there is so much actually happening on the inside. Cocoon as long as you need. There is growth, breaking and rebuilding, and complete transformation happening here in the midst of the darkness and pain. Holding you gently in the process 💕💕

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Sep 4, 2023·edited Sep 4, 2023

Hugs - your giant monster guts slime - is going to turn into a Beautiful Empowered Butterfly - soon as the mucusy parts are over (grieving for the life you thought you were going to have). One day your butterfly self is going to rise like a Phoenix!😻🤗🤗

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You WILL fly again! And ll will see your beauty!

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😭😭💗🦋

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Everyone has said the best things. I'm just saying you spent much of your life making everything about everybody else, particularly Ian. Most of us do. To us, honeybunch, YOU are the most important person in your family. I'm praying that you come to believe that too. We love you.

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I am so sorry this sad situation is happening to you. I would say I am shocked, but at my age nothing shocks me anymore. It is so hard to lose someone you thought would be there forever. Take some time and luck your wounds, then let yourself fly again. You are beautiful!

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I have no idea of how to make of theodicy. But I know when one is coming face to face with a bed card that life has dealt, it stings like crazy. I dislike platitudes. So I am not gonna offer any. Hang in there friend if it’s the last thing you will ever do. Our God hasn’t changed but our life circumstances change. Cling tight to the God of your mother or grandmother, whoever. But know one think I am offering a prayer for you.

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Change is not easy. Change this big is HARD! But you will come out the other side and be able to look back, amazed at all you’ve gone through and survived! I believe in you! I thank you for letting us see a part of your process of change! 💕

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Change can suck, especially when it’s not what you want.

Thank you for sharing your journey- it will help so many who face similar challenges

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Oh MK, we seem to be navigating our lives by the stars under cloudy skies. I think all there is to do is set the sails and pray. Pulling for you.

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You will emerge a beautiful butterfly, Friend. 🦋❤️

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