You can acknowledge what you’re doing well while you grieve. You can be real about unhealthy patterns you need to change without giving up your new loved hiking. It’s not all or nothing. It’s not live outside of reality or beet yourself up. Feel the hard stuff and then it’s okay to recover from that. For me it’s hiding in a book or watching something ridiculous that makes me laugh. Take care of yourself.
Yes. After my husband died suddenly, I lost 40 pounds in two months. My mother-in-law thought it was wonderful. That was pretty much the end of that relationship. And I remember the physical pain of it-- in my heart, in my stomach, clawing at my throat. Until people go through a grievous loss, they don't (can't) understand the physicality of it. The good news, though, is that it gets better. Progress tends to be nearly invisible and sloooooooow, not to mention unsteady, but time is working on it. In the meantime, you don't need to kick the ass of anything. Just grieve, as miserable as that is. Many of us are here with you, cheering you on, holding you, with love, from a distance.
I know how you feel about being heart broken, I lost my husband of nearly 36 years of marriage on July 25th 2020 to a massive heart attack, he never had any problems with his heart before & was always in the best shape & health. That's a pain I live with daily along with the fact he took his final 3 breaths in my arms. I hold back more tears daily than anyone ever really knows & turned my doctor down on putting me on meds to help.
MK, the only way out is through, and it is a very long healing process. It took me 5 years and I believe that's about normal. No reason to rush - in fact, you cannot, as you're learning. Trust your cardiologist, my friend, and be kind and loving to yourself. 💜
Oh sweetpea, I’m so sorry! My sister went through broken-heart syndrome. Her horrible supervisor was screaming at her and she had a heart attack. 😞 Luckily that’s in the past now and she’s thriving! I know that you will, too. Big hugs, sweetie! ❤️
I Love how you said “Swallowing and Digesting the pain! Awesome Analogy!! It is soooo very true!! But remember that after digestion. It is gone. Every digestion day is one way your BODY, MIND AND SOUL HEALS! Like and caterpillar, becomes a cocoon and then with time and nourishment becomes a BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLY!!🦋
What a metaphor! Everyone grieves so differently which is why I think it is so difficult for some friends to empathize and listen and not wish the griever "get over it". Even acceptance does not eliminate grief. I wish you faith and peace going forward and I hope you can be kind to yourself as you navigate your journey.
Do what you need to do, girl. Any loss is a process and part of the process is dealing with the pain. Thank you for sharing it with others so they know it takes time to figure it out, and thank you for giving yourself the time and grace to heal. Sending many hugs.
MK. You have been such an inspiration for so many of us. But we want you to take care of yourself. Take your time you need and remember you are loved by many💕🙏
My Husband had the 19 year old girl in my house every night while I was in the hospital after having a baby! Told me I was a f@@ fat pig. I too lost way too much weight half my body weight. I got down to 82 pounds. I thought if lost the weight he would come back. My hair fell out and my heart tried to give up! It’s okay to give yourself grace and to climb out of the darkness and see the light! For me it was 34 years ago and they had not name it yet! I am happy you are doing so much better now! You have this girl!
I am recently seperated from my husband of almost 14 years after he relapsed from alcohol and turned into a different human and just left and just stopped talking to me period. After 14 years of being my best friend he was now nothing to me. It has been the hardest months of my life. Thank you for sharing. I think of you often and we can do this right? We got this mama.
Sounds familiar! I also took to walking (not in the woods unfortunately), lost considerable weight (hard to eat when your stomach is never hungry). I also drank too much... anything to kill the pain. I did not develop myocarditis, but I did find myself in a deep depression which greatly affected my parenting abilities. Luckily, my sons were old enough they were safe while I struggled to get out of bed. Eventually I started anti-depressants and got a handle on my life again, but it was really touch and go for several months.
These things happen to us when we are put in positions we never asked for. Fortunately, women are strong and resilient and we learn how to heal because our children deserve it and we deserve it. You are in the healing process and your body is proving it to you. Listen to it and your doctors and soon you will be looking back on this time and feel pride in how strong you are!
You can acknowledge what you’re doing well while you grieve. You can be real about unhealthy patterns you need to change without giving up your new loved hiking. It’s not all or nothing. It’s not live outside of reality or beet yourself up. Feel the hard stuff and then it’s okay to recover from that. For me it’s hiding in a book or watching something ridiculous that makes me laugh. Take care of yourself.
Yes. After my husband died suddenly, I lost 40 pounds in two months. My mother-in-law thought it was wonderful. That was pretty much the end of that relationship. And I remember the physical pain of it-- in my heart, in my stomach, clawing at my throat. Until people go through a grievous loss, they don't (can't) understand the physicality of it. The good news, though, is that it gets better. Progress tends to be nearly invisible and sloooooooow, not to mention unsteady, but time is working on it. In the meantime, you don't need to kick the ass of anything. Just grieve, as miserable as that is. Many of us are here with you, cheering you on, holding you, with love, from a distance.
I know how you feel about being heart broken, I lost my husband of nearly 36 years of marriage on July 25th 2020 to a massive heart attack, he never had any problems with his heart before & was always in the best shape & health. That's a pain I live with daily along with the fact he took his final 3 breaths in my arms. I hold back more tears daily than anyone ever really knows & turned my doctor down on putting me on meds to help.
MK, the only way out is through, and it is a very long healing process. It took me 5 years and I believe that's about normal. No reason to rush - in fact, you cannot, as you're learning. Trust your cardiologist, my friend, and be kind and loving to yourself. 💜
Oh sweetpea, I’m so sorry! My sister went through broken-heart syndrome. Her horrible supervisor was screaming at her and she had a heart attack. 😞 Luckily that’s in the past now and she’s thriving! I know that you will, too. Big hugs, sweetie! ❤️
ugh! What a terrible person. I'm glad she is better than ok now.
MK. You are getting stronger and stronger!!
I Love how you said “Swallowing and Digesting the pain! Awesome Analogy!! It is soooo very true!! But remember that after digestion. It is gone. Every digestion day is one way your BODY, MIND AND SOUL HEALS! Like and caterpillar, becomes a cocoon and then with time and nourishment becomes a BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLY!!🦋
What a metaphor! Everyone grieves so differently which is why I think it is so difficult for some friends to empathize and listen and not wish the griever "get over it". Even acceptance does not eliminate grief. I wish you faith and peace going forward and I hope you can be kind to yourself as you navigate your journey.
Do what you need to do, girl. Any loss is a process and part of the process is dealing with the pain. Thank you for sharing it with others so they know it takes time to figure it out, and thank you for giving yourself the time and grace to heal. Sending many hugs.
MK. You have been such an inspiration for so many of us. But we want you to take care of yourself. Take your time you need and remember you are loved by many💕🙏
My Husband had the 19 year old girl in my house every night while I was in the hospital after having a baby! Told me I was a f@@ fat pig. I too lost way too much weight half my body weight. I got down to 82 pounds. I thought if lost the weight he would come back. My hair fell out and my heart tried to give up! It’s okay to give yourself grace and to climb out of the darkness and see the light! For me it was 34 years ago and they had not name it yet! I am happy you are doing so much better now! You have this girl!
I am recently seperated from my husband of almost 14 years after he relapsed from alcohol and turned into a different human and just left and just stopped talking to me period. After 14 years of being my best friend he was now nothing to me. It has been the hardest months of my life. Thank you for sharing. I think of you often and we can do this right? We got this mama.
Sounds familiar! I also took to walking (not in the woods unfortunately), lost considerable weight (hard to eat when your stomach is never hungry). I also drank too much... anything to kill the pain. I did not develop myocarditis, but I did find myself in a deep depression which greatly affected my parenting abilities. Luckily, my sons were old enough they were safe while I struggled to get out of bed. Eventually I started anti-depressants and got a handle on my life again, but it was really touch and go for several months.
These things happen to us when we are put in positions we never asked for. Fortunately, women are strong and resilient and we learn how to heal because our children deserve it and we deserve it. You are in the healing process and your body is proving it to you. Listen to it and your doctors and soon you will be looking back on this time and feel pride in how strong you are!
This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing this.
It’s the worst pain ever. Care for yourself, eat and sleep and exercise moderately. With love.
Takotsubo syndrome is real. The pain you felt is real. You are doing amazing and yes thriving !
Beautiful!